What's on my mind today

Anomaly
Why do people say
Live life to the full - live each day like it is your last
but
Slow down and take time to appreciate the world around you

Personal memory;
Last week I went to a service of remembrance for any person who has died that you want to remember and celebrate their life. The intention was for those bereaved relatives whose loved one has died more than six months previously so that the initial stage of raw grief and loss is over and a more reasoned perspective is achieved and happier memories are recalled and shared.

It seems a loving and sensible idea but for me, not so. My father died in such agony and sad circumstances and I was with him for several weeks of this suffering that I cannot get over this, even now, almost four years later. I have no memory of happier times with my father who suffered for over twenty years before he actually died and even then did not realise that his demise was near. Right up to the final couple of days I still think he believed he would recover enough to go home. The hospital staff were very caring and helpful and supportive but I don't think they were honest with me (or maybe they didn't realise I wasn't at the same stage as them in their care for him).

I want to remember happy family times, when Dad could walk upright without assistance, when he could drive. In my childhood when he took us for days out, when he worked in the fields, at mealtimes, in the evenings when we had social card game nights with friends. Although I have hazy memories of these times Dad is a blur, I cannot recall him and I still feel grief about this. He was a wonderful man with a marvellous sense of humour despite his suffering and didn't deserve an end like that.
Furthermore I feel a lot of guilt in that I didn't take more time to create a more fitting eulogy for him at his funeral. We told the minister the bare factual details and let him make up the eulogy from this information and his own personal knowledge of Dad. Not enough. I am going to do that in the coming weeks and write it here. I adored my Dad RIP xx

Men Rules

The Man Rules
At last a guy has taken the time to write this all down

Finally , the guys' side of the story.
( I must admit, it's pretty good.)
We always hear " the rules"
From the female side....

Now here are the rules from the male side.

These are our rules!
Please note.. these are all numbered "1 "
ON PURPOSE!

1. Men are NOT mind readers.
( FIRST & FOREMOST RULE)

1. Learn to work the toilet seat.
You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down.
We need it up, you need it down.
You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.

1. Sunday sports, It's like the full moon
or the changing of the tides.
Let it be.

1.. Crying is blackmail.

1. Ask for what you want.
Let us be clear on this one:
Subtle hints do not work!
Strong hints do not work!
Obvious hints do not work!
Just say it!

1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.

1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do.
Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.


1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument.
In fact, all comments become Null and void after 7 Days.


1. If you think you're fat, you probably are.
Don't ask us.

1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one

1. You can either ask us to do something
Or tell us how you want it done.
Not both.
If you already know best how to do it , just do it yourself.

1. Whenever possible, Please say whatever you have to say during commercials..

1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.

1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings.
Peach, for example, is a fruit, not A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.

1. If it itches, it will be scratched.
We do that.

1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," We will act like nothing's wrong.
We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle..

1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer you don't want to hear.

1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine... Really .

1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as Football
or Hockey.

1. You have enough clothes.

1. You have too many shoes.

1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!

1. Thank you for reading this.
Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight;


But did you know men really don't mind that? It's like camping.

Pass this to as many men as you can -
to give them a laugh.

Pass this to as many women as you can - to give them a bigger laugh